At some point in life, we all have felt overwhelmed. You might be going through a situation in the present where everything seems and feels chaotic, nothing works and you’re going to lose your mind. You try so hard to put your ducks in a row, but chaos doesn’t seem to want to leave your life.

When people or life events, either instantaneously or progressively create overwhelming or traumatic experiences, we get negatively affected. This can involve a storm of multiple feelings and emotions and a turbulence of thoughts. Our thoughts, feelings and emotions are translated into movies which our brain plays on repeat in the mental video screen it has in an effort to make sense of the experience. But… a movie is not real; it is fiction! The chaos increases and we end up feeling even more overwhelmed.

There is order in chaos. Otherwise we wouldn’t know it is chaos. Simply put, chaos is not “chaos”, it is an “order” that doesn’t serve us well. The experiences we went through rearranged the order that serves our needs into a different one that does not. This is what our self perceives as “chaos”. So, all it takes is to utilize the internal resources each human has to create the change we desire.

In order for us to heal, we need to properly process and make sense of the past, we need to be in touch with what is happening in the present and why, and design a beneficial future that will serve our needs best. The personality we have, our behavioral patterns, the emotions that heat us up or turn us cold and how we process them, the mental strategies we were taught, our values and beliefs and the use or not of emotional intelligence in our interpersonal relationships can be both stumbling blocks and the remedy as well. The proper mapping of what makes you, you is the key to successful self-healing!